Olivia Wilde Shares Marriage, Sex and Life Advice For Being Awesome Post-30
Thirty is the official freakout age for many women: have you settled into your chosen career (or even figured out what that is)? Have you found your soul mate so you can start making babies before all your eggs die?
(Intense thoughts for a Monday, I know.)
But in a new Glamour column, Olivia Wilde has shared some sage advice for turning the big 3-0, including “don’t freak out.” Here are some of my favorite tidbits:
On your attitude as 30 approaches:
I’m hitting a major milestone: 30, or as I like to call it, the Cut the Bullsh-t and Go Be Awesome stage. I’m thrilled about this impending development (I might finally grow boobs!), but my brain has some catching up to do (I’m gobsmacked when bartenders refuse to ask for my ID).
On comparing yourself to others:
Yes, Einstein had discovered the theory of relativity by your age, and Emily Brontë had written Wuthering fu*#ingHeights, but honestly, what you achieve is far less important than what kind of human being you are. What do you want people to say at your funeral: “Olivia may have cured HIV, but she ran over my cat and drove away laughing”? No, thanks! I’d rather be a good person who makes people happy than a dick who wins a Nobel by 32.
On embracing your sexual prime:
Hey oh! According to horny Professor Alfred Kinsey’s 1953 page-turner Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, women really start heating up in their thirties, so let’s just say it’s finally your turn to act like an 18-year-old boy—except you’ll be 1,000 times better at…everything.
On settling down with he wrong person (okay, it’s easy for her to say this when she’s getting hitched to Jason Sudeikis!)
Sure, you’ve attended more bridal showers than yoga classes in the past year, but that doesn’t mean you’re destined to be a craggy spinster, searching for roommates on Craigslist at 50. The danger with “husband hunting” is you start to see every date as a job interview (“He does seem to be homosexual, but that might be good for fatherhood!”); it clouds your ability to get to know someone.
On making babies:
I love kids with a passion I usually reserve for hot cheese, miniature chairs, and Prince concerts, but I feel no stress to reproduce simply because of a fear of withering eggs. Wait for the right partner, and make sure you’re where you want to be in life before picking neighborhoods based on school districts. This is not to suggest you should live irresponsibly for the next 10 years, then expect to get knocked up when your chosen dude finally sneezes inside you. But you’ll never find the right baby-maker or enjoy baby-making if you’re doing it out of anxiety. Relax, be good to your body, and when the time is right, get busy.
Say it, sister!
For more good 30-something reading, check out Meghan Murphy‘s “Stop Telling Me How I’m Supposed to Be in My 30s” over at XO Jane. It may sound contradictory, but I think she and Olivia actually agree on a lot of points.
You might also follow Jennifer Aniston‘s advice: get therapy. THERAPY FOR EVERYONE!
The best advice for former 20-somethings seems to be this: Chill! You’re still you — and even MORE awesome because of your wisdom and experience.