Amanda Pendolino
July 31, 2013

Katy Perry Explains Why She and John Mayer Broke Up

Katy Perry is back together with John Mayer — but she had to do some soul-searching before they could patch things up.

“He pulled away. That was a big hello for me,” the 28-year-old revealed in a new interview with Elle UK.

“I realized I could lose the person I loved and I had to deal with some things, issues I think a lot of women have,” she continued. “You can be strong in one aspect of your life but submissive in another. In relationships, it was hard for me to speak up and set boundaries. I think a lot of that was to do with the fear of loss.”

It’s refreshing to hear some relationship honesty from a celebrity, and I think Katy makes a very good point. Sometimes women who are strong and independent in their careers or with their friends don’t always apply those same qualities to their romantic relationships, perhaps because they’re afraid of how the other person will react.

Katy and John broke up in March, but are back together now and apparently things have been going well. Recently John told a crowd that Katy was his “face to call home.”

Photo credit: Joe Seer / Shutterstock.com

Photo credit: Joe Seer / Shutterstock.com

Interestingly, Jennifer Aniston, who once dated John Mayer, doled out relationship advice this week too.

Jen, 44, who stars in the upcoming We’re the Millers, said in an interview with Glamour that if she had to give advice to her 30-something self, she’d recommend going to therapy.

“Go to therapy. Clean up all of the s–t. Clean up all of the toxins and the noise,” she said. “Understand who you are. Educate yourself on the self.”

“You can undo a lot of things. If you’re not happy, you can become happy,” she added. “Happiness is a choice. That’s the thing I really feel. Like with friends who refuse to get happy, who refuse to rise above the discomfort of where they’re at.”

Jen also said you can’t really be in a healthy relationship until you figure yourself out. “You actually deserve to have a family,” she said. “And once you meet yourself, and truly love yourself, then you attract that.”