Danny Brown is in the headlines after a concert in Minneapolis on Friday where a woman allegedly pulled down his pants and performed oral sex on him while he was on stage.

Critics have been quick to call him a misogynist while others have been giving him virtual high-fives over social media sites like Twitter. It’s unclear what the circumstances were leading up to the assault or what happened afterwards. One Redditor says he witnessed Brown grabbing women fans and basically asking to get assaulted.

But tourmate Kitty Pryde is “mad as hell” about the incident — and paints a very different picture of what happened that day. Pryde wrote an open letter in which she comes to Brown’s defense, stating her outrage at the public’s skewed view of what she calls a “sexual assault.” (Be prepared for NSFW language).

“I will say that it happened so quickly that nobody I talked to after the show even knew anything had happened (there was only one photo and no video—how rare is that). I will also say that whoever wrote on Reddit that Danny was “walking around the stage getting girls to grab his dick” is 100% false, and to blame someone for their own molestation is a shitty thing to do. Anybody who is exaggerating this tale to climax is also a lying fool, and to call it a blow job is even going a bit far because it was probably the fastest thing I’ve ever seen. “The Thing” was not a thing that Danny facilitated—it was an actual sexual assault, and somehow nobody gives a fuck about that but me.”

It’s shamefully clear double standards exist when it comes to sexual assault. Women are seen as the victims, while men are always the perpetrators.

Security didn’t come to Brown’s aid when the assault occurred either because the act occurred too quickly or they saw no need to intervene. On the other hand, Pryde recalls being grabbed by two male fans, who were instantly removed by security. No such protection was given to Brown, who reportedly backed away from the woman.

In her letter, Pryde realizes if Brown had pushed the woman off there would be “attacks on his masculinity” — not to mention the inherent racial implications of a black man pushing a white woman (even in self defense).

“Everyone wants the option of blaming it on Danny, because people can’t accept the fact that a white girl raped a black dude in front of a bunch of people,” adds Pryde.

In a society in which male victims of sexual assault are either not taken seriously or laughed at, it doesn’t come as a shock that no one is pointing the finger at the woman who allegedly assaulted Brown. Why? Because no red-blooded, heterosexual dude could ever turn away sex (of any kind) from a willing woman, right? No wonder men feel ashamed about speaking out against their rapists. Around 10% of sexual assault victims are men, according to Rape Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN). Who knows how many male victims stay silent to avoid ridicule and disbelief from authorities who should be there to protect the victim and reprimand the perpetrators?

One Frisky blogger asks us to re-imagine Brown’s assault and replace the male rapper with singer Rihanna. Would people even question the credibility of a sexual assault if a male or female fan began molesting the star onstage?

Instead of just re-imagining the specific case of Brown’s ordeal, it’s time we re-evaluate how we think about sexual assault when men are the victims.